"let's just stay friends".

Category: Dating and Relationships

Post 1 by Pure love (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Monday, 29-May-2006 9:22:18

I think the title says it all: Do you think a couple which has been together over a longer period can still be friends, after all that happened? Do you think, if the breakup is more or less peaceful, friendship can be maintained?

Post 2 by HauntedReverie (doing the bad mango) on Monday, 29-May-2006 10:07:18

I've been through it. It really depends on the relationship. My break up was peaceful as pie and we said we'd still be friends but well, the relationship was a bit erm, weird so we don't really talk all that much. It just depends on your personalities and the relationship and things. Personally, I think it's hard to stay friends with someone you date but, that's just me.

Post 3 by Nem (I just keep on posting!) on Monday, 29-May-2006 12:40:05

There are two many factors to give this question a straight black or white answer. The simple answer to can it be done is depends on the people, the truthful answer is different for each person.

Post 4 by Rune Knight (Ancient Demon - Darkness will always conquer Light!) on Monday, 29-May-2006 12:56:16

Well after I broke up with a girl, I was with for 2 and half years. We decided to remain friends. However due to several things that happened during our relationship I couldn;t bring myself to call her up to talk to her anymore. We talked for about two weeks after the nreakup but after that we haven't talked since and I don't intend on talking to her ever again either.

Post 5 by Pure love (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Monday, 29-May-2006 15:13:52

well, now my own experience: I had been dating someone for more than a year. We had a little argument afterwards, but now we are still friends and I still trust him very much. So, in my experience ... it can be done, but it's not always easy.

Post 6 by tear drop (No longer looking for a prince, merely a pauper with potential!!!!!) on Monday, 29-May-2006 15:24:21

It hurts like hell at first, but I've done it, and it seems to work out in the end.
I've known this man for eight years, and we dated off and on. Now, we're best friends, and can talk about anything.

Post 7 by sparkie (the hilljack) on Monday, 29-May-2006 19:45:12

Depends on the person and what happened.
Troy

Post 8 by dissonance (Help me, I'm stuck to my chair!) on Monday, 29-May-2006 20:49:35

good topic, inis! I agree with Crystal Rain, it's kind of strange at first, especially when we start moving on to dating again and stuff. I dated a guy for six months, and after we broke up it felt like i was less relaxed with being friends than he was. either he hid it really well or it was easier for him. anyway, it is a lot easier now, and we will probably be closer than we were when we dated.

Post 9 by Blue Velvet (I've got the platinum golden silver bronze poster award.) on Monday, 29-May-2006 20:54:34

I've never been able to pull it off. Either I still care for the guy and just being friends hurts too much, or the breakup is bad and we end up hating each other, so of course we can't be friends.

Post 10 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Monday, 29-May-2006 21:29:03

for me, it's hard to stay friends with my exes. it's just never gonna be the same.

Post 11 by season (the invisible soul) on Tuesday, 30-May-2006 0:15:20

its really depends on situation and person. me and my ex try the very best to be friend, or as close as we can but both party also know that, the friendship is rather cold. this happen cause lots of topic can't be discuss like before, for example, those topic who's sensative towards both party, and its just hurt. sometime, i rather discontinue the friendship than having such cold conversation going on. we know that we still care for each other but then, it is just hard to be going on with kinda cold manner.

Post 12 by Pure love (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Tuesday, 30-May-2006 1:59:41

I understand .Sometimes we hardly talk, but, I mean, he was the one I trusted first, and he stil lcares for me as a friend and vice versa.

Post 13 by changedheart421 (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Monday, 19-Jun-2006 21:17:32

I myself am in this situation. Becky aka ride_or_die_chick and lickemlo are trying to be friends. It is very hard because I am in a new relationship. Sometimes I really think you can not.